tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post4333688562470868868..comments2024-03-28T17:16:03.754-07:00Comments on Eye on the Edge: More old memoriesDJanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-45701925935750846872014-01-19T13:36:52.476-08:002014-01-19T13:36:52.476-08:00Sometimes they won't answer the questions anyw...Sometimes they won't answer the questions anyways--LOL! Maybe that will make you feel better in an odd way. ;) <br /><br />So sad that your grandma lost everything. If anything had happened to my dad while us kids were growing up he had no life insurance or anything. We would have been on the street. My mom didn't work until I was in high school and she wouldn't have made enough to keep the house if she was working. Well, he's still kicking at 93 so he guessed correctly, I suppose. ;)Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-49000016180346712292014-01-13T17:41:22.609-08:002014-01-13T17:41:22.609-08:00I loved reading more about your family. It is alw...I loved reading more about your family. It is always interesting to think back on family stories or family events and begin to wonder about things we never thought of before. Thankfully, I have my mother who at age 97 is as sharp as ever and fills me in on stories and answers questions. Rarely does she not remember. My father did a great deal of family research and genealogy and wrote a family history. I am grateful to have these.<br /><br />It is so sad to think of your grandmother not knowing that her husband did not leave her taken care of. She worked hard and ended up without the rewards. Thankfully, her children took care of her needs. Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-76546312499194848442014-01-13T10:50:11.552-08:002014-01-13T10:50:11.552-08:00Talking with Mama (82) and Daddy (87) is such a pl...Talking with Mama (82) and Daddy (87) is such a pleasure, Jan. When I was younger, I wouldn't have thought so. I was too wrapped up in my own world when I was "growing up." But, time changes things. How much 'wiser' we become as we grow older.<br />Thank you for the gentle reminder to spend more time with those of our family who are in their golden years. I do. I treasure each moment. Thank you, sweet friend.Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01214796594702277709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-30846752213360079162014-01-13T10:11:42.627-08:002014-01-13T10:11:42.627-08:00Dear DJan, I've been away from reading blogs f...Dear DJan, I've been away from reading blogs for over a month, so I just read your last three--the one with your grade-school photo, the one about your paternal grandmother, and this one on your maternal grandparents. I'm so glad you encouraged your readers to talk with the members of their family who are older and who have stories to share. I never did that and so I don't know much at all about my the background of my grandparents or even much about my mom and dad.<br /><br /> I sort of have the feeling that on those few occasions when I did question them, they were both reluctant to talk about the past. I wondered at the time whether that was an aftereffect of living through the Great Depression.<br /><br />Like you, I find my view of "what's old" has changed as I've aged. In less than three months, I'll be 78 and so when a friend died this past year at 81 I thought he was too young to die. <br /><br />I'm so grateful that I'm still alive, still making friends, still learning and writing and enjoying the beauty of our world. So much to be grateful for. Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-88946581722773890642014-01-13T04:28:00.876-08:002014-01-13T04:28:00.876-08:00I think all of us of a certain age regret not find...I think all of us of a certain age regret not finding out more before our only sources passed. Blogging is a great way to keep memories alive for those to follow us.<br />Your grandmother reminds me so much of my own. Mine had been raised wealthy. She could not understand that her husband could wipe out the inheritance and leave her dependent on her children. Even as a child, I could sense her bitter disappointment. <br />Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-76853367186161332142014-01-12T17:56:14.433-08:002014-01-12T17:56:14.433-08:00It is wonderful to talk to the 'elders', b...It is wonderful to talk to the 'elders', but not always fruitful. My husband's mother is still alive, but very reticent about telling us much - especially about the black sheep in the family. She is from the old school, where scandals and any other negative things (such as illnesses, especally mental illness) were never discussed.Meryl Baerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13482532818278685217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-82699301924295918472014-01-12T17:25:49.815-08:002014-01-12T17:25:49.815-08:00Have you done some research and found out it is fi...Have you done some research and found out it is five or six children? Many records are available online. You would be surprised:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-57148956800554661352014-01-12T12:33:48.847-08:002014-01-12T12:33:48.847-08:00I think most of the "secrets" in my fami...I think most of the "secrets" in my family have been delved out by the various genealogists in the family. There is no one in the "older" generation left on my father's side, but I do have Three of my mother's siblings still alive, although two of them have dementia. I was able to talk to my mother about the past, but she really didn't like talking about herself much. <br />It seems typical that as young people we are very wrapped up in our own lives, and when we get old enough to start wondering about the past, those who cal tell us have passed.<br />I really enjoy reading about your family history, It is so very different from mine, except for the alcoholism. That Was a very real problem in my father's family and in the next generation too. Linda Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665601809156707572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-86744938858578067142014-01-12T12:06:01.507-08:002014-01-12T12:06:01.507-08:00I understand your exploration and your memories of...I understand your exploration and your memories of your family. We had some "disowned" people also, and a feud between my dad and his brother was unresolved before their deaths.<br />Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-27332510443362490132014-01-12T10:31:46.094-08:002014-01-12T10:31:46.094-08:00There are some mysteries in my family I would very...There are some mysteries in my family I would very much like to know the answers to also. The generation that had them is gone, and refused to talk about them when they were alive. Things back in the day were not talked about the way they are today and my mom was always told, let sleeping dogs lie, when she asked questions. The mysteries still haunt me, however!Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16035113274497372396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-25405260759545909302014-01-12T10:26:25.776-08:002014-01-12T10:26:25.776-08:00I have the same feeling about talking to our elder...I have the same feeling about talking to our elders. By the time I thought of questions to ask my Dad, the answers were gone. I didn't spend much time with my maternal grandparents. My paternal gradparents had limited English skills but we do know a lot about them.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-68807377336776564922014-01-12T08:08:23.500-08:002014-01-12T08:08:23.500-08:00Yes, you should have sat down with your elders (au...Yes, you should have sat down with your elders (aunts, uncles, parents) and actually written down what they had to say. I did and published 3 memoirs of family life that way, including old photos.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com