tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post6643676465102128766..comments2024-03-27T13:22:58.455-07:00Comments on Eye on the Edge: RememberingDJanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-63721811393556660782011-11-21T12:03:25.943-08:002011-11-21T12:03:25.943-08:00There is not anything profound I an able to add bu...There is not anything profound I an able to add but I hear you.Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-27023089498250508452011-11-21T04:49:57.344-08:002011-11-21T04:49:57.344-08:00I can't imagine being without any of my three ...I can't imagine being without any of my three sons D-Jan. It must be very hard for you at times and I feel for you. This week will pass as all things pass. Just stick with it. You have so many friends to help you through the difficult times and you are so brave.Stella Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06699491230987143490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-89038481378754708382011-11-19T06:15:46.729-08:002011-11-19T06:15:46.729-08:00What a very moving post. It was if I was seeing i...What a very moving post. It was if I was seeing it all happen before my eyes. Losing a family member is tragic (I have been there many times) but the thought of losing one of my children is beyond heartbreaking.<br /><br />Hugs for you.<br /><br />BethBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12020604933621899108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-31927055337694328632011-11-16T19:31:17.841-08:002011-11-16T19:31:17.841-08:00As I read your daily blog it is easy for me to for...As I read your daily blog it is easy for me to forget what I have learned of your life struggles from this blog. You have suffered and survived much. It is a tribute to your lost loved ones that you live each day so fully, so full of life.Linda Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07665601809156707572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-29821056845408679552011-11-16T16:48:24.398-08:002011-11-16T16:48:24.398-08:00Wow, what deep and heartfelt post. It was moving t...Wow, what deep and heartfelt post. It was moving to read. I can not even conceive of what it would be like to bury either of my children.JDShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05360470068860788678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-89930028861529987682011-11-14T18:50:57.326-08:002011-11-14T18:50:57.326-08:00Another milestone passed..and all the remembering ...Another milestone passed..and all the remembering that goes with it. You wrote a beautiful post..straight from the heart of a loving Mother. I am sending you a hug...you would have been an awesome grandma:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-22639365915922867732011-11-14T05:16:59.111-08:002011-11-14T05:16:59.111-08:00You have managed to carry us along on your roller ...You have managed to carry us along on your roller coaster of emotions. The fear, the joy, the loss and the rememberance. Wonderfully written.Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-89531915080373728272011-11-13T22:52:45.901-08:002011-11-13T22:52:45.901-08:00Such sadness. But still, gratitude.
Thinking of ...Such sadness. But still, gratitude.<br /><br />Thinking of you.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-27127195176088647652011-11-13T19:10:28.747-08:002011-11-13T19:10:28.747-08:00What a wonderful way to end your sad story! I am i...What a wonderful way to end your sad story! I am impressed at your ability to put a positive spin on such a tragedy. It must, as Whitney Lee and other commentors have mentioned, be a sign of your strength of character. Thank you for sharing this day with us.Carol Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09390245709306826757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-43164744252998035432011-11-13T17:19:53.526-08:002011-11-13T17:19:53.526-08:00Your spirit is rare, DJan. I'm so glad and gra...Your spirit is rare, DJan. I'm so glad and grateful I found your blog.Trishhttp://www.synchrosecrets.com/synchrosecretsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-77540317015311507752011-11-13T15:25:23.376-08:002011-11-13T15:25:23.376-08:00Dear DJan, I have no words. My heart is both bles...Dear DJan, I have no words. My heart is both blessed and broken by the story of Chris. It is blessed because you had a son you loved so much. It is broken because you have suffered so much from both the circumstances of his birth and his death at such a young age. <br /><br />You have had more than your share of things to resolve in this lifetime. Your vulnerability is all the more beautiful because of your great fortitude. You model strength to those of us who have lost. You show us the way to keep on living our lives. You have not given in to loss. You are not stuck in grief. That is important for me to see. <br /><br />I send you my love, my sympathy, my admiration, and my respect.Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-45363094682141106562011-11-13T15:21:08.593-08:002011-11-13T15:21:08.593-08:00Oh DJan, this is very sweet and very sad. I am str...Oh DJan, this is very sweet and very sad. I am struck by your description of Chris's birth in a military hospital, with you strapped down and knocked out. I'm glad you remember that moment of gazing at your newborn and feeling your love for him. And I'm moved by your closing, cycling back to your parents and being grateful that they gave you life. As I just said on your other blog, you are an inspiration.Nancy/BLissed-Out Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223278142557533175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-63775515709165992522011-11-13T14:40:25.151-08:002011-11-13T14:40:25.151-08:00Chris shares a birthday with my husband and now I ...Chris shares a birthday with my husband and now I will always think of your son on that day - and continue to be amazed by his mother. You are a strong and wise woman - and it sounds like the world was lucky to have Chris for the short time he was here.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-30870575250978029072011-11-13T13:50:16.879-08:002011-11-13T13:50:16.879-08:00I am so sorry for your loss, I suppose the loss of...I am so sorry for your loss, I suppose the loss of a child remains fresh for the parent no matter how many years pass.<br /><br />At the same time I am glad that your life still has meaning, that you haven't let the terrible events and grief destroy your own life. That would be worse.<br /><br />All life is a gift and all life makes some kind of mark on this world of ours, no matter how short. <br /><br />Remain the wonderfully brave woman you are. My best wishes are with you.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-8686924912520063202011-11-13T13:34:14.028-08:002011-11-13T13:34:14.028-08:00You express strongly great sadness and great happi...You express strongly great sadness and great happiness. <br /> Well done on this post. You cover a difficult time.<br /> My sister who died in 1953 would have been 70 on Jan 1. Again the same questions must have gone through my parents minds when they thought about her.<br /> Remembrance is a complicated process and as I said to you the other day we all have our own ways of remembering.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-70623912657431374532011-11-13T10:44:56.360-08:002011-11-13T10:44:56.360-08:00Great photo (although, what are ear cozies?). From...Great photo (although, what are ear cozies?). From the present to the past since milestone birthdays are so remarkable. Bless you for having Chris and loosing him, bless him for living and loving and serving his country. The biblical quote that speaks to me: "I love you, I have carved you on the palm of my hand." Isn't it that way with our babies?Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-90942303934541640752011-11-13T08:57:07.491-08:002011-11-13T08:57:07.491-08:00I think we moms always remember falling in love wi...I think we moms always remember falling in love with our babies...no matter how old they get. And we were young and often unprepared...hindsight and all that. You did your best and should forgive yourself. You will always miss him. He will always be your baby boy.<br /><br />You really did live through some strange times with his family, but Chris turned out to be a good man, a loved man. Sounds like he had a good life while he was here. <br /><br />Isn't it a surreal feeling when you get older to be able to look back for decades and wonder about the randomness of it all...like your folks meeting and falling in love. Thank goodness! Or we wouldn't have you, and you wouldn't have had Chris. :) Meant to be. Somehow it all fell into place over time and helped to form you into the wonderful, strong, complex woman you are today. You're a survivor with a smile and a new hiking jacket. ;)Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-54078365060054646542011-11-13T08:33:46.899-08:002011-11-13T08:33:46.899-08:00DJan, I admire you so much for how you have manage...DJan, I admire you so much for how you have managed to come through a life with such a terrible loss as your two sons, for how you manage to find the joy in things afterwards, how you don't seem to let it drag you down. You are truly an inspiration! hugs!CrazyCrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17512240982215608638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-33258986848961553002011-11-13T08:33:40.590-08:002011-11-13T08:33:40.590-08:00What a touching story, DJan! It brought tears to ...What a touching story, DJan! It brought tears to my eyes. The thoughts of what might have been... I can't begin to imagine your sorrow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-40144901403403615782011-11-13T08:17:58.668-08:002011-11-13T08:17:58.668-08:00The ebb and flow. It has got to be the most diffic...The ebb and flow. It has got to be the most difficult thing in the world to have your child pass away, and you talk about it with such strength in spite of the pain you have. I admire you greatly DJan.<br />To be grateful for life in spite of our pain is what it's all about I think.Rubye Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511953177053448513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-23628429820679289202011-11-13T07:30:23.247-08:002011-11-13T07:30:23.247-08:00Whenever I read of your loss, I'm brought to t...Whenever I read of your loss, I'm brought to tears. Such a hard thing to endure and you seemed to have moved through this most difficult of human experiences with such strength and love of life. Your last paragraph about your father crossing that dance floor... beautifully written.Teresa Evangelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05495114564099989481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-60822545461687955942011-11-13T07:19:40.910-08:002011-11-13T07:19:40.910-08:00Dear DJan, normally I have lots of words to say in...Dear DJan, normally I have lots of words to say in response to someone's comment. Today, hardly any. I read your posting about your getting pregnant and married and the poverty of your first husband's home. Then I completed your latest posting and I'm heart-sad for the sorrow you have endured.<br /><br />And yet, I know one thing for sure--from living my own somewhat staid life. That out of everything comes good. And Chris was such a goodness in your life. Even the memory of his memorial service has given you the goodness of knowing how loved he was. And yet, great goodness or none, we weep because life just is hard and it just isn't fair.Dee Readyhttp://www.cominghometomyself.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-48910339525863350152011-11-13T07:13:52.137-08:002011-11-13T07:13:52.137-08:00Why am I not surprised that you ended this post wi...Why am I not surprised that you ended this post with gratitude? Your strength of spirit is always amazing. I cannot imagine that melancholy really covers the gamut of emotions that you must have been experiencing this past week. <br /><br />I am certain that you would have been a fabulous grandmother. If you'd like to test the theory for awhile I'll be happy to ship you two children:o)Whitney Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07766231420593480962noreply@blogger.com