tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post8493769431997771755..comments2024-03-27T13:22:58.455-07:00Comments on Eye on the Edge: TrappedDJanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-65740949047856547332010-01-10T10:24:38.309-08:002010-01-10T10:24:38.309-08:00Don't be so hard on yourself. You were trying...Don't be so hard on yourself. You were trying to do the right thing. I could have easily been in your same situation had it not been just luck that I didn't find myself pregnant. But what if-----? As I read about your early life there are so many of my own memories coming up from that time in my life. And it is hard to remember back that far real clear. I really admire you for doing this and wish that I had the courage to do the same. I'm just not there yet.Leave a Legacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08736682143653420541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-53044809916249757892010-01-03T19:35:32.003-08:002010-01-03T19:35:32.003-08:00Hi DJan, I have not been here for awhile..you have...Hi DJan, I have not been here for awhile..you have been busy! <br />Hindsight is 20/20, join the group ..we all could have done better..I will read on:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-79552704992287623232010-01-01T18:44:55.444-08:002010-01-01T18:44:55.444-08:00Wow.
How awful for you to have to marry someone yo...Wow.<br />How awful for you to have to marry someone you barely knew, yet it turned out that you had a wonderful son from these events.<br /><br />I got married to someone I fell in love with, two years after high school, and it is the same man I am still married to. But we often talk about it now..how terribly young we were and how we would have killed our daughters had they wanted to do the same.<br /><br />Life now is so different.<br />People live together before marriage. It is almost an expectation. <br /><br />We often wonder now, if we would have done that instead if society would have not looked upon it as a sin or with shame.<br /><br />Life's script is unknown to us, and for a good reason.<br /><br />I feel sorry for your pain as a young woman then and in your poverty in Flint.<br /><br />I look at photos of me when I was a little girl and a young woman and I want to shout out advice to the pictures....<br />but they don't hear me...<br />as it should be.The Retired Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02466803019073952351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-30943438686967585632009-12-12T10:54:49.859-08:002009-12-12T10:54:49.859-08:00My 97 year old best friend gave me a gift many yea...My 97 year old best friend gave me a gift many years ago. When my children were causing me a great deal of grief, she said, "Wendy.... Old heads are not borne on young bodies." I have never forgotten that statement...have used and shared it many times.<br /><br />I made many mistakes, myself... but I am older now...and I do better....at least some of the time.wendyytbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11958628213008688022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-34578969863894646112009-12-12T09:05:56.739-08:002009-12-12T09:05:56.739-08:00:)That sounds so nice.. i may just do that! but ri...:)That sounds so nice.. i may just do that! but right now, i am going to turn out the lights because it's past 1 am in the corner of my world!<br /><br />btw, the picture is earmarked for one of the places i would love to go.. ;) Don't we all!!!<br /><br />;)<br />SilverSilverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15559987944096301573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-22166490793386464942009-12-12T08:26:28.095-08:002009-12-12T08:26:28.095-08:00i stumbled on your blog. Read your story.. and i a...i stumbled on your blog. Read your story.. and i am glad you are writing about them. It worked for me- y'know, processing them, and eventually, they do stop haunting me.<br /><br />;)<br />~Silver<br />ReflectionsSilverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15559987944096301573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-52670635875798421472009-12-11T13:48:03.049-08:002009-12-11T13:48:03.049-08:00I have a great deal of shame and regret of my own,...I have a great deal of shame and regret of my own, DJan. I have treated people in my past quite callously, and those few I didn't treat callously I treated cruelly. At that age, though, it's a rare soul who isn't self absorbed. I know I was. I'm sure that a great deal of your self focus was tempered by the necessary selflessness of parenting. <br /><br />I agree that you have to take out all of those old memories and look at them honestly before you can begin to forgive yourself. That is quite a difficult (and painful) process because, lets face it, it's tough to look at ones self and acknowledge what an ass one was! Many, many people simply never do that. I was fortunate enough to be forced into facing my own demons 5 years ago at a relatively young age. Even at that age, though, I'd accumulated quite a number of spectacularly asinine choices. <br /><br />I will say again that I admire your courage in the undertaking of this journey and am grateful you've chosen to include us along the way.Whitney Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07766231420593480962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-49285391711795727902009-12-11T13:09:31.009-08:002009-12-11T13:09:31.009-08:00As much as we hate to look back at who we were the...As much as we hate to look back at who we were then, we would not be the people we are now if not for the experience of dealing with the bad things that happened to us in the past. It really is true, "what does not kill you, makes you stronger". <br /><br />Every person is just trying to get through life the best way they know how every day. Be glad you have come as far as you have. You have turned into a strong, independent women. I love who you are...Norma Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16012021195725446402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-46105935116001719272009-12-11T12:49:32.519-08:002009-12-11T12:49:32.519-08:00Well said, Whitney. I am trying to figure out how ...Well said, Whitney. I am trying to figure out how to forgive myself for having been so completely and utterly unaware that anyone was suffering but me. <br /><br />My next post will take it from this point and what happened next. I know that the person I am now would not have made the choices I did then, but the person I am now still judges my young self and I am willing to let it go. But first I have to NAME it, tell the story, so I can put my mental arms around it. I think, anyway...DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-197597102880101691.post-7069618831662289942009-12-11T11:49:38.854-08:002009-12-11T11:49:38.854-08:00Wow. I can see why you struggled with this post. ...Wow. I can see why you struggled with this post. How heart-wrenching for all of you. I'm not sure that I see anything to forgive yourself for. You made choices in your life that had unexpected consequences, but it seems as though you did the best you knew to do with the results. <br />I cannot imagine what a struggle your daily existence must have been. It's a dose of reality that not many would have managed well. I'm sure I wouldn't. I know that life is not easy or was not easy for a large number of people; still, it seems I lead quite the charmed existence in comparison. <br />I'm wondering though, where you went after living with Derald's family for that year. What was the next step in your journey?<br />I feel the need to point out that it serves no purpose to judge yourself for who you were. Life is supposed to be a journey, hopefully one on which you grow as a person. It sounds to me as if you handled life better than most would. You should look at all you learned from this period of time.Whitney Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07766231420593480962noreply@blogger.com