I stepped from Plank to Plank
A slow and cautious way
The Stars about my Head I felt
About my feet the Sea.

I knew not but the next
Would be my final inch -
This gave me that precarious Gait
Some call Experience.

Emily Dickinson, c. 1864

Sunday, March 1, 2026

'Grim update

 

Taken yesterday

I am thinking that my sweet partner might not make it. This is not what I hoped whould come from this rehab. Even though it's early days, I am not feeling  optimistic. I have been doing some PT on his leg myself, since they don't do any on the weekend there. I will be there today,with no John to share breakfast, since he's got shingles himself. And yes he did all the vaccine, but it didn't keep him from getting it anyway.

I will take an Uber to the rehab center this morning and try to smile and hope for the best. I never have imagined this as the way things might turn out. I appreciate all your prayers and am feeling heartbroken. I know this too will pass, but it's not easy now and will get harder yet, it seems. Sorry to be so down, but I don't feel much hope at the moment.

Sorry to make this so short, but it is difficult to see to write.

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

Difficult to see to read, too, so thank you for soldiering on. Holding you and partner in my thoughts.

cp

John's Island said...

DJan, I’m so sorry you’re carrying this weight, especially without John beside you for breakfast and comfort while he battles shingles himself. It all feels like too much at once. Please don’t apologize for being down. Grief and fear deserve honest words. We’re here to hold some of that heaviness with you. I’m keeping you, your sweet SG, and John in my thoughts. May small mercies find you today … an encouraging word, a steady hand, a quiet moment of strength when you need it most. John

Anonymous said...

I have been reading your blogs for years and sharing your ups and downs, and I am so sorry for what you are going through right now, with your partner and your eyesight.Getting older has some awfully scary parts,I am finding out, too.My prayers and positive thoughts are with you, I do believe they help, a small amount.Just know that some of your readers out here are sending love and support during this most difficult time. Thank you for sharing.please keep posting, I think it may be helpful for you , and also, you have folks out here who truly care.

Madeline Kasian said...

I posted, up above, did not mean to be anonymous! I'm Madeline!

ApacheDug said...

DJan, I am very sorry for what you (and your poor husband) has been going through. I'm not a very religious person, but I've been keeping you both in my daily prayers.

Anvilcloud said...

It is looking a bit grim, but maybe there will be a turnaround. We can hope. Meanwhile, be as kind to yourself as you can. My thoughts are with you.

Rian said...

DJan, words cannot say what I'm feeling for you and SG as you go through this awful situation. But please don't give up, miracles do happen and as said in previous comments, your friends (blogger and otherwise) are all keeping you in their thoughts... and praying that all will be well in time. I know it must be terribly scary, but you are not alone, dear friend (although it may feel that way).

Linda Reeder said...

Oh, Jan, reading this and seeing the photo, my heart sank. How can this be, two such vital people. You are my longtime dear friend. I don't want this for you and SG. We don't always get a choice though.
I have been preoccupied dwelling on my own minor surgery. This is nothing compared to what you two are going through. I am holding you in my mind and heart. Peace be with you.

Rita said...

Oh, Jan! So very, very sorry to hear this about your sweetheart and your good friend, too. Troubles typing here, too. Love and hugs.

Far Side of Fifty said...

Sending you good thoughts, prayers and a hug. One day at a time. After an injury and surgery and a move to a different facility it takes time to adjust.

Gigi said...

I know it seems dire at the moment - and I'm so very sorry - but I'm going to keep hoping and praying for a good outcome. Sending much love your way. xo

Marie Smith said...

I feel for you, Jan. I pray things turn out well in spite of how it feels now. Take care, my friend. I hope you can feel the support of you blog friends praying for you!

Glenda Beall said...

I am so sorry to hear that your guy is not doing well. My heart goes out to you as I relate to having your beloved in the hospital and seeing him so sick. You are in my prayers and my thoughts as I send you positive vibes for strength, good health, and peace. Although we know these times will come, we are never ready. I know he is comforted with you being with him.

Red said...

This has very suddenly hit. I takes you by surprise. You are working with him and that may help.

Barbara Rogers said...

Just to echo what has already been said. More positive energy being sent your way!

Phyllis Stewart said...

So very sorry the two of you are going through this. It’s exhausting and I know it must hurt your heart so deeply

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

I'm sorry this has happened to you both. May you be able to move through this sooner than you think. We're all here for you.